Browse pivots
18 of 39 pivots.
The Regret-on-Three Test
Ask whether you'll regret avoiding this conversation in three days, three months, three years.
The Relational Frame
Open with what you want for the relationship — not what you're upset about.
The Two-Minute Rule
Shrink any new habit until it can be done in under two minutes.
The Context Shift
Change the physical setting before reopening a stuck conversation.
The Peak Protection Protocol
Move every high-stakes decision into your sharpest hour and refuse them outside it.
Name the Narrator
Catch the inner critic turning a small choice into an identity test, and rename it.
The Regret Lottery
Reframe a task you're avoiding as a prize you'll lose if you skip it.
What Might It Be True Of?
When you hear something you want to argue with, ask what it might be true of instead.
The Power of Yet
Add the word 'yet' to any sentence where you've written yourself off.
The Hard Thing Rule
Commit to one hard thing — and you only quit on a natural stopping point.
Ask What, Not Why
Replace 'why do I feel this?' with 'what am I feeling, and what's next?'
The Two-Minute Rule
Shrink any new habit until the starting version takes under two minutes.
Anchor the Tiny Habit
Attach the new behavior to a moment you already do automatically.
The Belonging Reframe
Treat 'I don't belong here' as a near-universal early experience, not a verdict on you.
Settling the Body First
Before the hard conversation, take 60 seconds to settle your nervous system.
The Gathering Purpose
Before any meeting, write a disputable, specific purpose — or cancel it.
Ouch, Oops, Thanks
Build a three-word vocabulary for repairing small cross-difference moments.
Reframe Stress as Fuel
Before a high-stakes moment, tell yourself the racing heart is helping.