Ask What, Not Why
Replace 'why do I feel this?' with 'what am I feeling, and what's next?'
The concept
Why-questions deepen rumination; what-questions produce insight
Eurich's self-awareness research found that 'why' questions about feelings invite confabulated, rumination-heavy answers, while 'what' questions produce concrete, actionable insight. The shift is one word and large in effect.
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How people ran this
Used this before a portfolio review. Sat with the dread for 8 minutes, then opened Figma and just shipped the worst version. Got the best feedback of my year.
Maya, product designer
Ran it during a planning week when I kept rewriting the same doc. Three rough versions in 15 minutes — my staff eng picked the one I least liked.
Jordan, eng manager
I'm a chronic deleter. The 'name the feeling' step was the unlock. It was almost always shame, not perfectionism.
Anon
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