ClinicalEPEsther Perel 2-min read 5-min action

The Relational Frame

Open with what you want for the relationship — not what you're upset about.

The concept

From content to context

Perel's work shows that most difficult conversations stall because we lead with the content of the complaint. Leading with the context — what we want for the relationship — changes what the other person hears.

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Get reminded to actually run this

Pivots only work when you use them. Send me a gentle nudge:

Pivot pairs

Curated cross-disciplinary pairings that strengthen this one.

The Courage Pair

Pair with: The Regret-on-Three Test

Pink's regret test tells you whether the conversation matters. Perel's relational frame tells you how to open it once you commit.