The Worth Decoupling
Separate the value of the ask from the value of you before you walk into the room.
The concept
The stories we negotiate from
Perel's work on relational dynamics shows that we freeze in negotiation when we've quietly fused the outcome with our worth as a person. The unlock is naming that fusion before it runs the conversation.
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How people ran this
Used this before a portfolio review. Sat with the dread for 8 minutes, then opened Figma and just shipped the worst version. Got the best feedback of my year.
Maya, product designer
Ran it during a planning week when I kept rewriting the same doc. Three rough versions in 15 minutes — my staff eng picked the one I least liked.
Jordan, eng manager
I'm a chronic deleter. The 'name the feeling' step was the unlock. It was almost always shame, not perfectionism.
Anon
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